Through the years, I’ve had to develop real discipline around listening. Of course, I mean listening to others, but also being aware of the sounds around us. As a rancher, I have the joy of hearing birds singing, thunder clapping and cows mooing. Listening to those sounds not only enriches my daily experience but can also keep me safe from danger.
However, the art of listening to others is one that, as an extrovert, I’ve had to consciously practice. I was recently reminded of a quote by Krista Tippett: “Listening is about being present, not just about being quiet.” Being truly engaged in each moment allows us to process both the sounds and the meaning behind what we hear.
One benefit of this practice is that I tend to remember what people tell me. Weeks or even years later, I can recall our conversations and follow up about something they shared. Usually, they’re surprised I remembered.
That said, I’ll admit that sometimes I feel distracted and my mind races while others are speaking. Staying present is essential to really absorb valuable information. I had to laugh when I mentioned this to another extroverted friend, who replied, “Or if you can get by with just barely listening and still have a good answer!”
My challenge to myself, and to all of you this week, is to reflect on how good we really are at listening. Start by tuning in to all the sounds around you, including that small voice in your head and heart. Then, put down your phone or other devices, and really listen to your family and friends when they’re talking. Slow down, be present and ask great questions. You’ll gain friends—and learn a lot.
Even when someone is speaking about a topic that doesn’t particularly interest you, you might stretch your mind and discover something new.
Maybe that old kindergarten advice—stop, look, and listen—is something we should still be practicing, well beyond crossing the street.
In the spirit of this newsletter, I’d love your feedback. Drop me a line, I’ll be listening.
Quietly contemplating,
Gay Gaddis
Founder. Author. Artist. Trailblazer.
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